UPDATE: AITA for helping my best friend enjoy his hobby?

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Title: UPDATE: AITA for helping my best friend enjoy his hobby?

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Submitted by lovetherapist_throwaway

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7 hours ago

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So first of all I'd like to thank everyone who took the time to comment on my last post and everyone who sent a PM. smiling face with smiling eyes I really appreciated all the advice, even the people who were not-so-gentle about it. The only people I DO NOT want to thank are the people who sent me nasty PMs asking for pictures or video of me helping Adrian with his hobby. Like, wow, I'm totally sure you're just really interested in the hobby and aren't asking because you wanna see me with no clothes on. face with rolling eyes NOT HAPPENING! If you're THAT **** to see naked pics of some random enby on the internet then you can probably find some that Adrian took and posted somewhere without asking me. I'm pretty sure he does that sometimes.

Anyway, onto the update. So yesterday my partner and I were finally able to sit down and calmly discuss the situation. I apologized again for keeping secrets from him, and he apologized for the ultimatum. He admitted that it wasn't reasonable for him to ask me to stop hanging out with Adrian or for Adrian to abstain from sexually assaulting me. I told him I understood why he was upset, but he stopped me and said I didn't. Turns out, as some commenters suspected, there was another reason why he reacted the way he did! (Although no he wasn't cheating on me WTF. Person shrugging I never had any reason to doubt his fidelity! That's a big reason why I committed to him, we're both big on monogamy and faithfulness.)

Here's the full story. I didn't mention it in the original post because I didn't think it was relevant at all, but Brian has always been very insecure about his penis size. Like, for the first couple months we were dating he actually wouldn't let me see it. We never went past second base except for him giving me oral sometimes. When he did show me he was really nervous that I would be disappointed or even break up with him when I saw it. confused face It was honestly NBD to me, when we went all the way for the first time I really enjoyed it. Maybe my vagina is unusually narrow or something? Anyway we got past it once I told him that I'm totally satisfied with his size (which was completely true) and that I'd never had sex with any man other than him (which was technically true! but now I've learned my lesson about technicalities and I know I should have told him I've seen one other penis.) Sorry if that all sounded really clinical I don't know what the rules are on this forum regarding inappropriate/sexual content so I wanna play it safe. So anyway when he came into the house and saw Adrian's mega-dick hollowing out my fuckhole I guess it dredged up all those old insecurities and made him react the way he did.

Guys I felt like such an IDIOT when he told me this. slightly frowning face Reading this you must be thinking, WTF, how was this not the first thing you thought of? Well the honest truth is that I just didn't think of it. I don't think of Brian's penis at all when I see Adrian's, like it's genuinely never even occurred to me to compare the two. They don't serve the same purpose in my life, you know? Brian's penis is the most intimate part of the man I love, it's something I see when we're together and touch to express our love and closeness. Adrian's is just my friend's dick, I wouldn't even think about it at all if he didn't like spending time with me wrapped around it. Besides, it's not like Adrian has some god-cock that makes me cum like crazy or anything. It's honestly pretty uncomfortable whenever he stuffs it into me, and I never cum on it unless he's fingering my clit. (Well, maybe once or twice but not generally.) But since I stupidly didn't tell Brian about all that, he walked in and not only thought I was cheating on him, he thought I was cheating on him with a guy who was way WAY bigger! loudly crying face My poor baby. No wonder he was so hurt.

So I explained to him about how and why I never compared him to Adrian size-wise and how it's really not the same thing. I could tell it was kinda comforting to him but he wasn't fully getting it. A lot of people have trouble wrapping their heads around **** hobbyism until they see it in action, so I suggested that I invite Adrian over to explain the hobby and maybe demonstrate it a little. Well my partner was still a little iffy about it, but he's also super mature and good at conflict resolution and gorgeous and amazing, so he was willing to give it a try.

So I gave Adrian a call and asked if he'd be willing to come over and use my body in front of my partner. On the last post a lot of people dragged Adrian for being thoughtless or uncaring, and to a certain extent I got it because he did act a little thoughtlessly in the immediate aftermath of Brian walking in on us. That being said, I would like to say that he's actually a really good friend and I was SO thankful for how he responded to this request. First of all, when I called him he dropped everything to come over, he sounded enthusiastic even. If you don't have a friend who gets excited at the opportunity to help you strengthen your relationship with your partner, you have to get one because it's awesome! Second, when he got to our place he had this lady with him. She was older, maybe early forties, really pretty and pretty busty. I was like Adrian who's this, and he was like I dunno, and I was like ??? until she introduced herself. She told us her name and said she was walking out the door to her car to go pick her husband up from the airport, but Adrian saw her and asked her to come with him to our place so he could **** her during our talk. Gang, this man THOUGHT ABOUT how Brian might not be comfortable watching him **** me right off the bat and he PICKED UP SOMEONE ELSE TO USE AS A SET OF HOLES UNTIL BRIAN GOT USED TO IT. star-struck He honestly is so emotionally intelligent and thoughtful, like even when he's doing his hobby he's thinking of other people.

Anyway we all sat down and talked while Adrian started fingering that lady he grabbed to get her pussy ready. Brian and I talked about how he got into **** hobbyism, which if you're curious I left a comment about it on the original post. I actually think Brian found it really soothing to hear that having a big penis isn't all sunshine and rainbows. Issues with penis size was something they had in common, with Brian having issues with size insecurity and Adrian having issues with fitting his cock into whatever random orifice he decides he wants to squeeze it into. Brian and Adrian had always gotten along okay but I never really saw them connect until then. It was heartwarming. smiling face with hearts

So by then the airport lady was squirming and moaning so Adrian took off her clothes, threw them in the trash, and started properly demonstrating his hobby. I won't bore you with the technical details but basically he took her in a few positions and ultimately blew a pretty massive load all over her face. (And our living room rug, but these things happen.) She was actually a really good sport about it, I was worried it would be awkward having a stranger around during this personal talk but she was very quiet and respectful and just did her best to let Adrian do his thing. After a little while I basically forgot she was a person. She did great! I was honestly a little sad to see her go when Adrian pushed her out the front door.

After seeing it in action, Brian totally understood everything. He even apologized for making me feel like I couldn't trust him to be cool about such an innocuous thing, but I was like NO WAY! face with steam from nose I told him that he hadn't given me ANY reason not to trust him and I was totally wrong to hide it from him in basically the most badass way possible. Well, okay, maybe I cried a little, and maybe he cried a little too and we both hugged and cried for a while like a couple of softies. face with hand over mouth By the time were done crying and hugging Adrian had already started groping me from behind and rubbing his erection against the back of my boyshorts, so unsurprisingly he asked if it was time for my partner to watch him **** me.

You guys! Brian invited Adrian to stay and spend the whole evening having dinner and drinks, defiling my body, and chatting! I was so elated. Adrian had me and Brian sit down next to each other on the sofa, or well actually I was upside down so my legs were over the back of the sofa and my head was hanging off the front of it, and then he had Brian start taking a video, and well I'm kinda rambling but the point is we had a really awesome evening! grinning face My partner and BFF really bonded. Adrian even ended up spending the night which was super nostalgic. So that's where we are now. Everyone's back on good terms, better than ever in fact, and I feel amazing! (except for my bruised ass and sore throat LMAO)

Thanks again for all your help!