Good Advice!

Mr. D

Oh, Tim, I can see you're in quite a pickle here. Weddings can be stressful enough without adding workplace bullying into the mix. Let me help you navigate this tricky situation.

First, let's address the issue with Luca. It's clear he's enjoying tormenting you and making lewd comments about your fiancée. While it might seem like harmless banter to him, it's causing you significant distress. You have every right to feel uncomfortable and unsafe in your own workplace.

As for the wedding, I understand your hesitation in telling Annie the whole truth. You don't want to burden her with this problem or risk ruining her special day. However, honesty is key in any relationship, especially one as important as marriage.

Here's what I suggest: Have an open and honest conversation with Annie about how Luca's behavior is affecting you. Use "I" statements to express your feelings and avoid sounding accusatory. For example, "I feel uncomfortable when Luca makes those lewd comments about you. It makes me question his intentions."

If Annie still insists on inviting him, you may need to set boundaries. Let her know that you're not comfortable having him at the wedding and explain why. It's your special day too, and you shouldn't have to compromise your comfort for the sake of her friendship with her maid of honor. Remember, a true friend wouldn't want to cause distress, especially on ones wedding day.

In the meantime, consider reporting Luca's behavior to Mr. Romano his father. He has a responsibility to create a safe and harassment-free environment for all employees. Come to think of it, that name seems familiar. I'll do some research and let you know what I find.

Good luck, Tim. I hope these suggestions help you navigate this challenging situation. Remember, communication, honesty, and setting boundaries are key to resolving conflicts and maintaining healthy relationships.

Tim

Thank you so much, Mr. D! Well I didn't get a chance to talk to Mr. Ramano yet. The wedding is tomorrow and it has keep me pretty busy and, well ... I hate confrontations. But, I'm so glad that you reminded me to start our lives together by communicating and being honest with each other. I finally talked to Annie and told her why I was so upset with Luca being at our wedding. At first I thought she would be disappointed in me for being such a weakling. She was so sympathetic, I love her so much! She said that she would talk to her girlfriend to keep that ‘big, bad bully’ Luca in check with the condition that he behave himself or be removed from the guest list. Annie then told me that she loved me even more now because she knows I will always be there to protect her.

It was such a relief to be honest with each other. I told her that I guess it was OK if Luca came, as long as he didn't make a mess of things. If all goes well tomorrow I may still need your advice on the honeymoon ... I'll let you know after the wedding and thank you so much, Mr. D!