Of virginity.

“So, you are going to take her virginity.”

“Kylie... taking a virginity... It’s a concept that shouldn’t have existed in the first place, or at least not in its current form.”

“Oh? Please enlighten us with your wisdom... dear old one.”

I didn’t bother to react on her second jab this day.

“Virginity should never have been about sex for the first time, about penetration for men or being penetrated by women. The damage done to women in patriarchal societies... and in a lesser extent to young men, but not to be underestimated as well. It was cruelty to young girls, women have been inflicted pain in the name of purity, honor and innocence. It’s just a power play, sadistic in nature, about control over women, just because they are women. Virginity testing, mutilation of the labia upon women, targeted **** of virgins, demanding proof of virginity, proof of virginity during the first time penetration being married... The examples of cruelty and **** are endless...

To link a biological feature, a simple protective tissue in around the vaginal sheath as far as I know, to cultural concepts is pure ideocracy. It lays the responsibility for keeping purity, honor and innocence on the young girls while men can take it any time. The guilt they are laden with when they fail to protect themselves while they couldn’t in the first place...

So I don’t agree with it. Taking it. It shouldn’t be about taking it, plucking it, whatever. It should be about choice. Pure individual choice and awareness of making a full consent. It should be about an expression of love. About making love with your first lover. A woman should be able to define her own loss of virginity whenever she deems it right to do so. In full consent. With her first lover. It may be her only lover but there can be more after the first one. As long as she chooses to. For the men, it should be exactly the same. Making love with their first lover. Nothing more, nothing less. Keep honor, purity and innocence out of it. A woman or man can easily stay innocent, honorable and pure after having sex for the first time. It’s all in her or his own mindset, the choices they make, the view on the world they have, the decisions they make affecting others.

I admit, quite a monologue, but the **** of the artificial construct of virginity is close to my heart. If it had been defined the way I think about it... About making the fully aware individual choice of making love to your first lover... Let’s say a lot of women and men would still be around, healthy in body and mind.”

I wasn’t sure what I was expecting of the women of the room, but certainly not a complete silence all around. Some had their mouths agape. Others were still mulling my words.

“Oh. My. God!” Sophia exclaimed.

“Wow...” Kara sighed.

“What the hell was that?” Ella shook her head in surprise.

“Look, I am sorry, but that’s the way I think a... Why are you looking on me like that? Wait, wait, what are you all going...”

All of them jumped on me, embracing me, kissing me wherever they could. I couldn’t breathe due to weight of all of them on me.

Good one, Alex... Killed by your own opinion. They liked it, but you’re dead anyway...

“Stop it, he can’t breathe!”

“Oh... Sorry...”

“Yeah... Sorry...”

“But still...”

“Best not to overwhelm him...”

“Thank you... Oh come on... Off! Ksjt! We have more important things to discuss.” I waved them off.

“Look, I know how to make it a pleasant experience for her. I have learnt that much of you all. The problem is... eh... my mood swings...”

“Ah... yes, that can be a problem... either you are way too... stressed or way too... down.”

“Yes, Kara. Thank you for that apt description. And there is a second problem too: Emma.”

“Oh...”

“Yes, Ella, oh... When Clara chooses to be virgin no more, she will be a lot happier and in no need of Emma at all. Which leaves Emma deprived of opportunities to feel needed.”

“True... And you can’t please her just because you want to please her. She wouldn’t accept that. Or at least she wouldn’t feel happy with it.”

“Exactly, Kylie.”

“Can’t we give her more work? Taking over the household...?”

“Perhaps in here, but not outside. We all need to contribute to the group. We all need to lean on each other, Sophia.”

“Can’t we erm... use her as a back-up? Would she even agree on that?”

“You mean as a way to get you off, Ella?”

“You have to admit, Alex, you are one man for the six of us... And we all need our releases one way or another. And she is good at it...”

“Brutal honesty, I see... but it is possible, Ella, I need to be realistic too.”

“Added to that, when you are way too much in the mood, Alex, you need... let’s say... you’ll need a method of siphoning some of that energy off to be a more... attentive lover. We all have our separate fantasies, what might work for the one having you in that state, will not work for the other...”

“Yes, Kara, true...”

“And when you are let’s say... when it is half-mast, perhaps Emma could rise the flag a bit more...”

“Perhaps... Sophia.”

“So then you will be able to fully commit yourself to our and your fantasies at an optimal mood.”

“Aheum... yes, Kate.”

“And when we are finally free again... not all of us will be available, or you won’t be available to get the exact match between your or our mood levels and a certain activity.”

“Practical as ever, I see, Kylie.”

“But first we will need to talk to her. I need her opinion from her own mouth, agreeing to this... unconventional use of... human resources. Sophia, will you keep Clara company for a while, while we sort Emma out, when you send her to us? She might need some advice, some “what-to-expect” counsel and comfort, and please tell her my opinion on the whole construct of virginity in the first place. It might be she doesn’t want it anymore, who knows...”

“Of course, Alex...”