Repurpose your home

First things first: with the girls out of the house, you could start to let your home reflect your true self.

But you can't go all in because one or both of your daughters might stop by now and then. You talked with them before they left, informing them that you would be reclaiming one of their bedrooms for yourself and converting the other into a guest room with two beds. They would just have to share. They'd grumbled about it but there wasn't anything for it; they were off to college, after all.

The master bedroom is first to change. Taking your cue from the customary name, you redecorate the whole thing to suit the taste of an imagined master: masculine, exacting, sensual. A large four-post bed with heavy rings all around the frame for bondage, as well as a barred cage beneath. The color scheme, once light and breezy with soft teal and sky blue accents and a general beach theme is replaced with strong earth tones. Rich brown wood and lush green and dark gray accents like the heart of a forest. You add a comfortable arm chair that you imagine to be this hypothetical master's throne, as well as a low, lightly padded seat for yourself that one might mistake for a footstool. The walls are decorated with tasteful erotic art of bound, naked women, or kneeling before a man, or other suggestive imagery that tickle your fantasy and you hope will help keep a man in a dominant, sexual mood.

You stock one dresser with every implement, creme, restraint, toy, or other sexy thing you could think of and fill your closet with costumes and lingerie, each more bold than the last.

Then, eagerly, you create the play room. You turn what was once your little girls' bedroom into a BDSM dungeon fueled by unbridled fantasy. Stuffing it with modular furniture that can be rearranged or reconfigured to allow all sorts of fun times without taking up too much space, as well as a few pieces that make your stomach flop with a mixture of anticipation and dread. But you can't help yourself. Now that the floodgates are open, you're committed. If your hypothetical, imagined master wants to punish you, well, a good girl would have options available for him to do just that.

You leave the guest room completely tame, but add a few less obvious touches to other parts of the house. A shelf on one wall that could be converted to a sort of pillory, a few heavy fixtures here and there that feature discrete attachment points, a coffee table that doubles as a cage and allow the use of restraints to secure someone to the top of it, some toys, condoms, and lube in a locked chest that was just the right size to be bent over. Every time a new fantasy crawls into your head, you run out to purchase something to scratch it.

But as you begin to run out of house to update, as well as money to burn, you know it's time to take the next step and actually involve a partner in your fantasies. But who? How to find someone?