Sarah explains the plan

"Yesterday was about secrets, today is about status. There were things of yourself that you did not want the world to know, even though it made little sense. Today is about the things you do want the world to know about yourself, so I'd say the opposite of your secrets."

"So just how I identify myself?"

"Exactly. How would you describe yourself?"

"Uhh..." This was always a hard question. Where to start?

"I'm 19. I finished high school and got fairly good grades. Now I work at a daycare. I'm good looking, I hope. I'm independent."

"Perfect. Now image identifying as the exact opposite. You're dumb, don't contribute to anything. Don't look particularly good, etc."

Okay, weird, but Kirsten did it anyway. It made her feel quite a lot worse about herself. She imagined just a failed version of herself that did nothing to improve on her situation... and didn't care about what other thought about her.

"I did." Kirsten said.

"So you hate that right? Imagine if people actually have such an image of you."

Yeah that would suck.

"Horrible right? But why? What makes you care about what people think of you? Those people are likely people that add nothing to your life anymore. Old classmates, colleagues, stuff like that."

"Yeah." Kirsten agreed.

"So today you have to learn that this status of you doesn't matter. And to do that you need to lower your status in regards to me.