About the hypocrisy of Krypton and to be proud of her desires.

After assisting in putting out the fire, Kara flies back to the DEO and super-speeds past everyone until she reaches the room with her mothers hologram.

Closing and locking the door behind her, she walks over to the dais, activating the hologram "Hello my daughter, how may I help you?"

Pacing back and forth for a bit, Supergirl eventually faces the image of Alura and asks "What can you tell me about a sudden fixation on... sex? And... um, uncontrollable urges... to be... uh... humiliated?" her voice starting to waver as she tries to ignore the fact she's asking her dead mother about what amounts to a fetish.

There's a wide blue beam suddenly moving across Kara, originating at the base of the hologram.
"Scanning... Congratulations daughter, you have entered /irstun/, this is a time for reflection and contemplation in solitude and with your mate.
If you have noticed an aberrant sexual desire unrelated to the mating bond, please seek the medical guild immediately and tell no one."

Frowning slightly, Kara asks "I... what? The change... you mean like puberty? And what do you mean aberrant desires... why can't I tell anyone?"

"That is not entirely accurate. Your body has gone through the first physical changes earlier in your life but most Kryptonians were to some degree asexual even after that.
Due to the potential disruptive nature of /irstun/ we developed the Matrix for partner finding and the Genesis chamber for reproduction to have a more ordered development.
As for other manifestations, as this is the mental equivalent of the earlier physical changes those that manifested in the Daxamite way are considered mentally ill."

Looking more and more worried Kara asks "What... what do you mean, the Daxamite way?"

"These are people that instead of fixating on a person as the source of their desire, they fixate on a thing or a situation or a feeling.
My uncle Far-Se for example fled to Daxam after he became obsessed asses, seeing them, kissing them, having relations with them.
They were considered a disgrace, controlled by their baser impulses and not even in a way that could strengthen their house through finding a mate.
In the typical degenerate way of Daxam, that planet instead celebrated such people as connoisseurs of their chosen fixation and experts on this aspect of sex."

Sounding increasingly angry as she talks, Kara asks "That sounds like what humans call a fetish... you locked people up for that? That sounds horrible, and you consider Daxam primitive?"

"Checking... yes, that's an accurate word.
You could avoid this fate by resisting your abnormal desires, and our people split with Daxam when we started engineering such base impulses out of ourselves, leaving them in their primitive state."

Striding up close to the hologram, Kara starts speaking loudly and waving her hands in the air for emphasis "And if I've already succumbed, if I've gleefully let my desires control me multiple times, am I too a primitive to be locked up mother?"

"That would be very disappointing daughter, but all is not lost. Every time you let your desires control you, the new connections in your brain will strengthen, the period of susceptibility is at most two and a half earth week, though the first few days are definitively the most important. This period can be shortened if you either fall for or resist the allure of your 'fetish' frequently enough.
There has been no real research done on this though, only what passes for study on Daxam."

Too upset to stand still, Kara starts pacing back and forth again as she answers back "I knew you and father had a lot of prejudices against the royal family of Daxam, but I didn't know it was this sort of full blown racism!
We were the same people once, before we started changing ourself!"

"Yes, as I said, they remained primitive while we-"

Shouting over the Aluras word, Kara shuts it down "Hologram off! Fudge o... no, fuck off! I will not be ashamed of my 'daxamite tendencies'! I knew father did some questionable research with medusa... but that you as a judge had the same type of... gah!"

Translation from Krytonian:
/irstun/ - The change (a mental component of puberty, usually a part of connecting with your mate, can at times be diverted to a fetish instead)