Couples Therapy - Part 6

TOBIAS: -I was in bed with a girl, before I met Johanna, and I licked her feet. Her instinctive reaction was to laugh. Not like she wanted to make me feel bad or anything, but she wasn’t expecting it and she burst out laughing. It made me feel a bit embarrassed, so I never tried again.

JOHANNA: -But we’ve been together for so long! I can’t believe you never told me about this. I’d be totally okay with you licking my feet. I just never thought you wanted to.

CASALI: -See? That’s why it’s so important that you communicate with each other. Many times, people hesitate to suggest new things to their partners because they’re afraid of what they might think, and that’s a mistake. I do understand how you feel, Tobias, because that experience that you had was embarrassing for you, and your brain has a natural instinct to protect itself from unpleasant sensations…

JOHANNA: -But I’m his partner! We don’t feel embarrassed with each other! I really can’t believe you never told me…

CASALI: -Well, now he has. That’s why we’re here. And that takes us to Pablo and Marta. You have experienced some issues regarding foot play, haven’t you?

PABLO: -Yes. It’s one of the practices that we disagree on. I have always had a strong foot fetish. Seriously, to me a beautiful foot can be much more exciting than a vagina. But she doesn’t like her feet being touched. And it’s a pity, because she has gorgeous feet…

MARTA: -I know it sounds silly, but I can’t help it. I just don’t see anything erotic about feet. I mean, they’re just feet. I like him to caress my breasts, my butt, my vulva… but feet? Really? I just don’t feel comfortable…

CASALI: -You must all stop saying things like “this is silly”. Nothing in psychology is silly. Our brains are complex and everything we feel is the result of a series of instincts, experiences, social stereotypes… That’s why it’s important to understand what we all feel and why we feel it.

<<Emma, Monique and Johanna, would you mind taking your shoes off? Boys, I’d like you to give your partner a nice foot rub. I think it would be good for Marta to see how you do it. And it will be interesting to see Tobias and Johanna try it for the first time.

MONIQUE (taking her shoes off): -Sure, I’m always ready for that.

EMMA (taking her shoes off): -Oh my… this is a bit embarrassing, but okay.

JOHANNA (taking her shoes off): -Let’s give it a try!

CASALI: -Marta, since you don’t like it, we will respect that, of course. Would it be okay with you if Pablo massaged my feet?

MARTA (looking a bit uncomfortable): -Eeeeh… yes, I guess.

CASALI: -Pablo, would you like to give me a foot rub?

PABLO: -Yes, that'd be nice -looking at Marta:- Are you sure you don’t mind?

MARTA: -Yes, go ahead.