Boning up on going down

“You’ve never done anything like this before, have you?” Alyssa asks.

“No.” Nothing more to say—nothing intelligent, anyway.

“That’s not all bad; it means you have nothing to unlearn. First thing: eating pussy is not just about eating pussy. It’s not just about the pussy at all. It’s about pleasuring the whole woman, and so you need to take pleasure in the whole woman. You need to know all of her, how she feels under your hands and your lips. You need to appreciate all of her, not just with your hands and lips but also with your eyes, your voice, your body language . . . all of you needs to communicate that she is beautiful and desirable and you take pleasure in her.

“Second thing goes with it: hold off and go slow. Be a tease. You want to eat her pussy and she wants you there, but if you dive right in before taking the time to get her ready, it will not be good. You want her pussy dripping wet and aching before you even touch it.

“Third thing: remember, this is a conversation. You’re telling her she’s beautiful, that you desire her, that you want to pleasure her, that there’s nothing you want more than to touch her and taste her and feel her respond. She’s telling you how everything you’re doing feels. With everything you’re doing, pay attention to how she moves, what sounds she makes, all the ways that she reacts to what you’re doing. Pay attention, and change what you’re doing accordingly.”

This would have been a lot to absorb under any circumstances. Trying to absorb it coming from a girl I’d fantasized about while she’s sitting completely naked on my bed doesn’t make it any easier, but I do the best I can.

“Start by kissing her. Let your tongue play with hers, and as you kiss her, let your hands play lightly over her whole body. Then start kissing your way down her body, very slowly. If you’ve made out with her before, you may know some of her hotspots; if you do, focus on them. If you don’t, then kiss your way down her jawline to her neck and go from there. Enjoy yourself licking, kissing, and nibbling; taste her skin and enjoy her. Give every inch of her body your full attention, and delight in it. If she doesn’t like something, move on—at least you tried. Try everything you can think of, because that’s how you discover her hotspots. If you’re lucky, you might discover one together, one that no guy has ever shown her before. If that happens, she’ll really want to keep you.

“When you work your way down to her tits, don’t go right for the nipple. Kiss them all over, and stroke them all over as you kiss them. Start lightly and see what she likes; explore them and appreciate their contours, the ways they curve and move, and how they feel in your hands and in your mouth. If she’s responding well, you can try being more aggressive and see how she responds to that; if she really wants you to be more aggressive, she’ll probably tell you in some way.

“Keep kissing your way down her body, stroking your hands down her sides as you go; but when you get to the pussy, go around it. Spend some time on her thighs. Caress them and squeeze them, and move back and forth between them with your mouth. Kiss her inner thighs; lick them and suck them, and as you move back and forth, come close enough to her pussy that she can feel your breath on her clit. Trust me, with all of this, you’ll be sending signals straight to her pussy.

“The goal is to arouse her whole body, wake up all her pleasure nerves and set her on fire everywhere. The more you do that, the more excited she’ll get and the wetter she’ll get. By the time you actually touch her pussy, you want her whole body to be begging for your tongue. That intensifies every sensation and makes it much more powerful, and it creates a connection between her and you that makes everything you do much more effective—and eventually, lets you command a much higher price.

“If you’re really getting her worked up, she may start bucking her hips toward your face, trying to get you to stop teasing her. She may also start trying to touch herself, to bring herself to climax. Stop her. The goal is for you to give her an orgasm, not for her to give herself one—and if she lets you do it, it will be much better.

“When you finally move into her pussy, it should be sopping wet, and you’d best make sure it is. Wet your fingers and open her slit if she isn’t already open to you. If she isn’t wet, you’re going to need to contribute a lot of saliva. Otherwise—well, imagine getting a handjob with sandpaper. That’s what it feels like to have your pussy rubbed if you’re not wet.

“Spread her open and really look at her pussy, and tell her it’s beautiful. She needs to hear it, she deserves to hear it, and you need to mean it, because it’s the truth. Every woman’s pussy is unique, and there are more combinations than you can imagine. Some pussy lips are fat, some are thin; some of us have inner lips that protrude from our slit, while others barely have any. Some clits are the size of your little finger, while others will need to be patiently coaxed out from under their hoods—if they ever come out at all. Every one of them is beautiful. You look, you find the beauty, and you tell her it’s beautiful.

“Also, when it comes to moving on her pussy, don’t decide for yourself when it’s time to take each step. Let her body tell you. Let her arch herself against you. Let her press her sex into your hand when you brush past. Let her thrust herself against you or pull your head into her pussy when she can’t take any more teasing.

“When it’s finally your lips on hers—this is the ultimate French kiss—don’t go right for her clit. She wants it, but make her wait a little longer. Explore her inner and outer lips with your tongue, and keep your fingers involved. Make sure they’re wet, but let them play with her, too. Then pay very careful attention to her responses, to learn what she likes. As a side note, lips, tongue, fingers—no teeth unless she tells you to. That can really hurt.

“When you come to focusing on her clit, you should also focus on the opening to her cunt. You can try fucking her with your tongue and tracing circles around her clit with your fingers, but eventually you’ll probably want to swap around, slipping a finger inside her—start with one, but you can usually add a second—and doing her clit with your mouth. With your fingers, you’ll be able to feel ridges on her front vaginal wall, near the opening; that’s her G-spot, that’s where you want to play. With your mouth, brush and tease her clit with your tongue, give it some licks until it’s really good and wet, and then suck on her button. Keep moving your fingers, keep flicking the clit with your tongue as you suck, but suck it like your life depends on it—and then listen to what she tells you, and do it.

“If she says suck harder, if she says fingerfuck her harder, do it, whatever it is. If she says ‘Right there,’ whatever you do, don’t stop—just keep doing it. Her pleasure is your goal, so her words are your law. If you’re doing it right, it won’t be her head talking, it will be her pussy talking; all she will care about at that point is her pussy and how you’re making her feel. Don’t stop until she tells you to. If she cums, keep going unless she tells you to stop. If you’re doing well, she may leave you down there for a few more orgasms before she can’t take anymore.

“And by the way, ‘I need to breathe’ isn’t an excuse to stop, even briefly. Figure out how to breathe on your own time. Whether she’s riding your face or you’re kneeling between her legs at the edge of the bed, stopping for air isn’t really excusable. It can be like slamming the oven door at the wrong time, and the whole thing goes flat.

“So, Andrew, now that you’re done with the lecture, are you ready for the lab?”